A woman says her father started sending her money, then her mom secretly took funds from her account and called her a gold digger

A father who enters a child’s life late often tries to make up for lost years, and one South African creator says that effort set off a painful rift with her mother. TikTok user Keamashita, who posts as @keamashita2.0, shared the story in a nine-minute video that has drawn hundreds of thousands of views, as reported by The Daily Dot.

Keamashita opened the video with a disclaimer, asking viewers not to insult her mother in the comments because the two are working on their relationship. She said her father came into her life when she was about 17, as he had not known for years that he was her father. According to Keamashita, he cleared debt her mother carried from a divorce and later paid school fees for both her and her brother.

He also started sending Keamashita an allowance, with deposits of 1,000 to 3,000 rand at a time. However, she said her bank account had been linked to her mother’s since she opened it at 16, which gave her mother access to her transactions. Keamashita said she first noticed money missing when her card was declined during an outing with friends after school.

Keamashita says her mother called her a “gold digger of a daughter” on Facebook

Keamashita said she stayed quiet the first time, as she assumed her mother needed the money for something. When a larger amount disappeared a few weeks later, she decided to ask her mother politely to tell her before taking money from the account. She said her mother shut down the moment she raised it and then stopped speaking to her.

The silent treatment lasted months. Keamashita said she was studying in Switzerland when a friend asked whether she had seen her mother’s Facebook post about her. According to Keamashita, the post was a long essay saying her mother had raised her and done everything for her, and it called her a “gold digger of a daughter” for leaving once her father arrived with money.

Keamashita said she never confronted her mother about the post. However, she told an aunt she would not speak to her mother again, and she did not for about a year and a half. She said the words still hurt, as she worried the post could follow her into a job background check, and she described it as a wound that remains open.

Viewers responded with sympathy. One commenter wrote that “this young lady has beeeen through the most,” while another asked whether her mother has ever apologized. Someone else said her father “sounds like a beautiful human being” and said they were glad she was catching up on lost years with his side of the family. Several viewers also praised her for opening with a disclaimer.

Some comments were harsher toward the mother. One viewer argued that parenting becomes a problem when parents stop seeing their children as people with their own thoughts, and said posting the essay publicly was wrong. Another simply asked why the mother chose Facebook at all. A third wrote “this just kept getting worse,” while others asked what makes some parents act this way.

Fights over who controls a child’s money are not limited to family TikTok stories, and Alec Bohm’s parents were accused of greed in a court battle over the baseball player’s fortune. Keamashita’s case never reached a courtroom, but she said the damage to her relationship with her mother took years to begin repairing.

Keamashita said she and her mother are now on the mend, and she is trying to forgive her, though she did not say whether the Facebook post was ever deleted.

Attack of the Fanboy was unable to independently verify Keamashita’s mother’s side of the story, as this account originates solely from Keamashita’s TikTok video.